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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IDK; this sounds more like anxiety to me.[/quote]

What? This doesn’t sound like anxiety at all. It could be ADD, but I’m pretty convinced you could get 90% of 10 year old boys diagnosed with ADD/ADHD if you really tried.

This sounds like a nice, bright, well rounded kid just having brain farts when it comes to organizational skills. It wasn’t long ago when it was commonplace for grown, highly successful men to have full time secretaries to help organize and run their daily lives. CEOs still rely on executive assistants to run their daily lives. I’m not saying that’s a good thing, or that it should continue, but we need to realize that boys and men just struggle with this. And it doesn’t mean they’re not smart or capable.

I don’t want to be provocative, but school in the 2020s is about sitting quietly and regurgitating in the format and style that the teacher wants. That’s not going to work for a lot of boys. I’m not defending that, but it’s the reality. I don’t know whether that’s a good or bad thing, but fewer and fewer boys are going to graduate high school and go to college unless something changes. [/quote]

Agree with everything but the last paragraph. School is 2020 is a bunch of EdTech computer games and teachers playing audiobooks. Kids struggle more now with organizing because so little is asked of them as far as practice goes with their schoolwork. If, and that’s a big if, they get homework at all, it’s some printed worksheet.  When we had math homework for instance, you format your homework in a very particular way: name upper right corner, problem number in left margin, being careful to copy the problem out of the book correctly, lining up all your numbers, etc. While it may seem insignificant- these small things build your mind to organize and be diligent.

OP, I agree with the sentiment that probably any disorganized kid could be diagnosed with ADHD.  But I don’t agree with that sentiment.  Some people have a harder time naturally organizing and it takes practice and consistent learned habits.  Some people have to train your brain to be organized.  This is 5th grade- you have time to build some habits.  Does he use a planner? I am surprised he is getting any homework at all in 5th grade.  Is this private school? Have him start using his planner.  Check in with him daily about what homework he has, when it’s due, his progress in completing, and if it is back in bag (or electronically submitted). [/quote]

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