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[quote=Anonymous]It's called freedom of speech.  They have the right to say whatever they want, to opine what they want.  You have the right to ignore them.  My parents established this when we were kids.  They told us from early on that as our parents, they would always have the right to give their opinions about our lives.  Our only obligation was to listen.  We didn't have to follow their advice, but we had to listen and then we could decide what to do with the information.  Oddly enough, over the years, I've found many, many, many useful bits of information that my parents have passed down.  I've found some things that I don't agree with and do differently, but I just listen and then decide what to do.  Sometimes it's what they suggest, other times it's not.  Fortunately for us, they give their opinion, but don't fight us if we don't heed their suggestions.

I would suggest that you just listen politely, say something like "Thanks for the suggestion." or "Okay, we'll think about it." and then decide as a couple how you would like to handle the situation.  If they repeat the suggestion, you can add "Thanks.  You've already suggested that."  If they try to argue that you aren't listening or heeding them, you can add "Oh we heard your suggestion and have decided to do this our way.  Thanks for your concern."  Basically you listen politely, do what you want and if they argue, then you convey that you did hear them, but opted to do something different.[/quote]

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