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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is young enough enough that you control this, mostly. Neither one of them can drive.  I wouldn’t say anything, but do monitor her phone and minimize the opportunities they have to get together. [/quote]
Thanks! Her first little “BF” was the summer after 8th grade, and he lives down the street. The second was last year, and he also lived within walking distance. I use the term “boyfriend” loosely. My DD is not a “ho”. This is the first “real” boyfriend, fwiw, and they need transportation, as you mention. I guess you’re right that we have more control over this than I had considered.

The red flags are that he’s a little possessive and I don’t like it. It seems like he’s always checking in and wanting to hang out, and she is abandoning friends to even just talk on the phone with him. It just feels like too much for this age. [/quote]

Really important to talk to her, and not manipulate her. My DD is 15 1/2, and we have been having these conversations for a long time. I talk to her from the perspective of a friend who is abandoned the moment a boy enters the picture, and how that would make her feel. She knows that dating in HS is mostly "practice dating" for when she's older and having more serious relationships, that these things will more than likely not last, and it's stupid to mess up existing friendships that will likely outlast all the BF relationships for something fleeting. We have also talked about potential red flags in relationships, so she recognizes them when she comes across them. [/quote]

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