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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If couples therapy and divorce are excluded. What do people do? Do they justify cheating or not yet? [/quote]

There's no such thing as "justified cheating". Decent people never cheat. They either discuss open marriage with their spouse and come to a mutual agreement on terms, or they divorce.

Similarly, there is no amount of time without sex that justifies cheating to a person who doesn't cheat, and a cheater will use any length of time, or even none at all.

So your ethical options are: tough it out, open the marriage/consensual non-monogamy, or divorce (which you say is excluded). You could also be a low-integrity POS person and cheat, in which case, there's no circumstance or set of circumstances that justify that behavior. Just go cheat, if that's who you are.[/quote]

Trapping a spouse in a dead bedroom marriage is more immoral than cheating.[/quote]

Unless they've literally trapped you, cuffed you, caged you, etc., acting like a victim is just another part of your low-integrity bullshit. You're not stuck. You're an adult. You may have to make some hard choices, go without some of the things that are still good in your marriage, downgrade your life, etc. but you're not "trapped". Quit whining.[/quote]

NP.

I disagree.  “Trapped” is an accurate description for a spouse with integrity.

I do respect the fact there are a bunch of poly-amorous / open marriage people in this sub-forum.  My ask is:

- can you respect the people who don’t think exactly the way you do?  Many of us oppose divorce in our own marriages and we plan to abide by marital fidelity (for a variety of reasons).

Please stop being so dismissive of others, PP.[/quote]

I will 100% continue being dismissive of jerks who justify cheating. They are not trapped into cheating, this is a choice, and a shite one. If you oppose divorce and abide by marital fidelity, then you're not cheating and I'm not talking to you, so don't make it about you.[/quote]

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