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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a highly sensitive DS.  He is 14.  He did not do well in a large public elementary school with large classes and lots of ostentatious behavior.  He has done much better in a small private school with small classes.  It also took trial and error to find sports/ extra curriculars that clicked for him given his personality.  In some sports he could play well, but his sensitivities made it a hard sell.  Band / strings can be a good fit for kids like this.  And individual sports like swimming and running, maybe tennis/ golf.  He's doing well by all measures.  The sensitive nature is an asset, it just takes a bit more work helping him navigate the loud "look at me" culture we live in and finding his place.  FWIW, adults who meet DS for the first time think he's awesome and comment on him being a better listener, more respectful/mature, etc. than your average HS boy.[/quote]

Yes this sounds like how my son is leaning. He is in a small private school and is doing well. His classmates are kind and no bullies there but I do worry he might not find his people since it is a small school vs a larger public. He has no interest in team sports but enjoys all the individual sports, and is doing well with his music lessons, though his perfectionism gets in the way often. Glad to hear your son is doing well at 14!

I know these type of kids will impress adults, but I know kids don't care much about that and care more about their peers. [b]Is your son able to have good friends while not having to hide or suppress himself?[/b] [/quote]

I am not this PP but the person who said this description resonated with me and my son is 16.  My son is at a large public school and has found his people.  I do think this is very possible.

The question you bolded above is such the right question to ask (to me).  The path my son took is I would say he is now a bit more guarded around people.  He has walls up a bit more than he did when he was younger.  When he was younger, I remember he was just so shocked and hurt when people were awful.  But when he is with his people, he is fully himself.  He is kind and thoughtful (qualities that when he was in early middle school other boys made fun of him for!...tough to watch) and a good friend and funny and amazing.

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