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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You could mediate and not have this much drama.

Split 50/50 of martial assets and custody and call it a day. It is not that hard. "Lawyering up" is expensive and causes unecessary drama.

He probably thought you would not be doing "document requests" because a lot of divorces are not done that way. It is not hard to divorce in a way that causes less stress. But both parties have to agree and be rational and not fight with attorneys.

It sounds like you are choosing the fighting way.

Most men don't divorce "out of the blue."

There is nothing to fight over. Split 50/50 of martial assets and custody. Sign the agreement and file with the court.

If you choose the lawyer up way, that is on you. Play stupid games...[/quote]

So let me get this straight. OPs soon to be ex hires a lawyer and files for divorce but your advice is that OP should not lawyer up and jsut take whatever ex is offering.

You must be a special kind of stupid.

Even in the most "easy" divorces where assets are split 50/50, there is still an exchange of documents to determine what the assets ARE. OP is well within her rights to protect herself and her future. Just because he had a tantrum and decided to file for divorce does not mean that she should not protect herself FFS.[/quote]

She can still get a lawyer, but they can agree with attorneys, too. Duh. They can sit down with attorneys and hammer out an agreement or one attorney draft the agreement and the other attorney marked it up and send it back. It’s not that hard.

By the way, I divorced an attorney and we weren’t stupid enough to fight with attorneys, even though we both had one to review documents and file. Duh. (we did mediation first I gave up more than 50-50 but it has been way worth it in the long run because it makes coparenting way easier—what I was not doing is doing a drama-filled process fighting with attorneys down to the penny because that is just absolutely stupid and wastes your own money.

And guess what? You don’t have to provide documents: we didn’t. We knew what the ballpark was, and that was good enough. Most people do not have substantial assets to really need financial documents poured over. chances are, people who pour over them are actually wasting more money on attorneys fees than what the difference would actually be. Getting it over fast and cheap in the ballpark is much better than doing it by the penny and fighting.

They can still be reasonable and both have attorneys and still come to an agreement. [/quote]

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