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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im remarried and we each have adult kids. I love my husband dearly but there are times I wish I had married someone without kids. It does get complicated blending families. For example, he helps his kids out a lot with money, which bothers me.  One of his kids is coming to live with us for a while because she’s having some mental health issues. I’m supportive but it’s not something I really considered. You think when they get older, they’ll be self sufficient and live on their own. As far the relationship with his daughter, I think that just needs time. There’s not much you can do except be friendly, supportive and kind. Hopefully she comes around. But be careful about blending families. It’s trickier than I anticipated! [/quote]

Thank you for sharing your experience.  I understand and I actually also briefly dated a man without children and it was a disaster.  He was very jealous of my son and could not relate to me and my parenting issues at all.  I broke up with him after just a few months of dating. I find that I could relate much better to men who also had children.  But, I get what you are saying about not knowing what the future holds.  But wouldn't this also apply to us?  How about divorced fathers who prefer single women without children because it could potentially make their lives less complicted now and down the road?[/quote]

I think that's a very sensible preference for divorced fathers to have. When both people have children, the "blending" becomes that much more complicated. It's a larger group of people, so it's going to require more compromise and more logistical work. And the chances of having a difficult person in the family are higher the more people you have. [/quote]

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