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[quote=Anonymous]IMO really the only realistic control you have here is whether FIL does or does not visit. The rest is DH’s problem. I’d suck it up just once/yr (if that is what DH wants) and put your foot down with DH about any additional visits during the year. Once a year is enough. DH is welcome to visit FIL at FIL’s house anytime he wants of course. During these visits, I’d do nothing to prepare (leave that to DH) and would absent myself as much as realistically possible without being totally rude, leaving it to be DH’s problem to handle. I’ve learned over the years that trying to change the dynamic (even if for valid reason) with an IL can backfire or just plain create drama you really just don’t need in your life. Set a boundary about the visiting frequency, but beyond that - just leave it all to DH. Nod and smile when the one time of year when you do see FIL. Your DH will either get sick enough of FIL’s behavior to say something, or he won’t. [/quote]
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