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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At this time he wants to apply for an internship. It requires a reference letter from a STEM teacher. So, my son wrote an email to his math teacher from last year’s class. After a whole week, he didn’t hear back. I assume that means the teacher doesn’t want. I read his email and felt very awkward. His tone, you know, is not like asking for a favor. Instead, it sounds like instructing the teacher without any emotion. Besides, another reason may be: the teacher didn’t have personal interaction with him and doesn’t want to refer. It’s not a surprise. There is no way for him to have small talks with any teacher or classmate. That’s not what an autism kid can do. He is always quiet as if he were not there.[/quote]
OP your son is a good candidate for DBT.  One of the DBT skills is called DEAR-MAN.   When you first teach it to your son, focus on DEAR.  You can teach MAN later.

D=Describe the situation (just the facts, no commentary).  
E=Explain how the situation relates to you.  
A=Ask for what you want/need (Note that you never ask before doing D and E.  Also, it's an ask, not a demand.)  
R=Reinforce for the person whatever positive effects there might be if they give you what you asked for.

Here is more info.  https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/dear-man.php

Many Autism kids *can* do this, if they learn it explicitly and practice it.  Just like they would learn a math skill, or how to master driving.  Think about getting your son a DBT therapist who works with adolescents and young adults.

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