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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Female BIGLAW partner with two kids here who can attest that a number of my partners (women) have more than two kids, and their husbands are in demanding professional jobs.  They don't have tons of nannies and helpers, though some have family nearby--just your standard daycare or nanny arrangement.  some do work a reduced hour schedule (and MADE partner while on a reduced hour schedule), while others (like me) go full time.

What makes this possible?

1) Technology! We're all doing business by email and phone, no one routinely meets in person anymore.  Take advantage of your firm's technology.  Don't bother with negotiating "telecommuting policies" or getting permission to work outside the office--just work from where you need to, and don't bother explaining.  If you're doing your work, we don't care where you are.  Of course, there are some exceptions to this rule--but those lawyers tend to be fewer and fewer these days, especially as you get more senior.

2) Being realistic.  If you need to hire more help, do it.  Cleaning your house takes hours you could be spending with your kids, or finishing a brief late at night.  If you need to work fewer hours, because you want to be with your kids, or are dying getting to daycare in traffic at 6 every day, then work fewer hours.

3) Above all, don't apologize to anyone at the firm, or act like having more kids is a problem for the firm.  We working mothers make the firms a ton of money, and work 500 times harder than any other lawyer in these places.

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You can do all this and still not make partner -- I'm not saying that you are suggesting these are the tips to partnership. But just because certain biglaw firms are ok with people logging in from anywhere, there are many others where there are unspoken face time requirements and the like and even if you work more than the men, your need for "flexibility" is still looked down upon. So it isn't as easy as you're making it sound. -Signed, a biglaw senior who just got home at 1 am and is unwinding now before bed.[/quote]

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