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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to my DD and others we know as well. HS volleyball is extremely political and when 50-100 girls show up at tryouts for 14 spots there is bound to be favoritism. My DD also didn’t make her HS team despite being a successful club player for a frequently-mentioned club on this forum. And despite her claims that she aced every serve and had multiple kills at tryouts. Unfortunately, politics happens and her HS coaches clearly were biased against her club, and even made pejorative references about it during tryouts and Green Day pre-season practices. So DD knew it was an uphill battle.

Ironically, we also know a player who got cut during tryouts (and didn’t return for the rest of the week-long session) but also somehow managed to make the roster. She too was a weaker and shorter player. But - surprise surprise - played for one of the coach’s clubs. And the parent is also “influential” in the community.

My DD was shocked when she saw this girl on the roster because the same girl got cut on the third day before my DD was cut on the last day. There were *many* other more deserving players who deserved a spot over this kid.

Anyway, my DD too was depressed - it’s confusing and embarrassing - but she is focusing on club prep, clinics, privates, and schoolwork. It’s a short season and club clinics are starting up next week already. She also is helping assistant coach a rec team for middle schoolers and is using her skills to help others.

She said the girls on the HS team all play for the same club and are cliquey and mean-girl catty anyway, and she doesn’t really want to be a part of that. She is looking forward to seeing them during club season where her team usually beats them anyway.

The struggle is real. But your DD needs therapy and honestly you seek a little OCD to be this obsessed about IP addresses etc. [/quote]

Another girl cut during tryouts who made her way on the roster? WTF? When a player is cut, the coaches make the decision that the remaining girls are a better fit for the needs of their team. Most of the comments on this thread blame the victim (and her parent) for not being strong enough to accept injustice, but none blame poor decisions by the coaches. People act as if politics is acceptable and everyone should just move on with their therapy. Once you cut a player, let the player go and pick from the remaining players. Of course reversing a decision to cut will be seen as injustice by all the players who were still hoping to make the team. [/quote]

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