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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As of now, I am trying to be understanding and not upset my wife by saying too much on this issue, but I can't help but feel that this situation is less than ideal.

We have 8-month old twin girls and are discussing upcoming travel plans. My wife is very close with her family and would like to take the babies (and me) to her hometown three separate times over the next 4 months, through the holidays. [b]One is just to visit and see everyone, another is for a wedding and the third is for Christmas.[/b] In her preference each trip would be at least a week in duration. I also have a family wedding that we will be traveling for during this time period. We are using this wedding as a pretext to spend time with my family and community who have been clamoring to see the babies. She has friends in my hometown as well, so some of the time in the town where my family is from would also be spent showing the babies to her friends, and I will likely have to turn people away that would like to see the babies because time is limited.

She is very attached to the babies, quite sensitive at the moment and the idea of being away from them overnight is anathema to her. I have tried to be reasonable and "cut" several other potential trips or family obligations with my side because I feel that would be entirely too much travel for them and for us and disruptive of their schedule. She does prefer to skip any of the trips to her hometown and the solution she is proposing is that if I think it is too much travel, I can just stay home and she can travel with the twins herself to her hometown for those trips.

I feel like I am walking on eggshells if I tell her to cut back on one of her desired trips or travel without the babies, but that leaves a situation where things seem a bit imbalanced and inflexible. If feels like my family and preferences are being "squeezed out" she both wants to spend a lot of time with her family and also does not want to be away from the babies.

Should I just bite the bullet on this one in the short term? [/quote]

Mom here who would not have been separated from my babies at that age.  Wedding, sure.  Christmas, maybe (it's a very germy time to travel with babies).  But the "just to see everyone" visit is unnecessary.   I'd talk to her about the kids' immune systems, the fact that RFK isn't going to let them be vaccinated for Covid, and sleep hygiene.  I'd also make it clear that you're open to members of her family visiting you at your home.[/quote]

Tell me you have purple hair without telling me [/quote]

Bad guess, but deductive logic isn't y'all's strong suit.[/quote]

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