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[quote=Anonymous]In general using money as motivation for anything other than actual paid work will have the opposite of what is probably the desire of most families.

Some people want a child to be motivated to do their best in a sport (or music or academics, etc) because of intrinsic competitiveness, love of the sport, and a desire to do well for the team. If you praise your kid for effort and team work and celebrate success, this should develop naturally. It also helps you see earlier when a kid doesn't enjoy the sport and should be doing something more fulfilling where they might develop a true passion and skill.

If individual financial gain becomes the child's motivation, you are developing a personality that is narcissistic in the capitalist sense. The kid will take the shot themselves instead of passing the ball, and may decide the money is worth cheating or hurting someone on the field. Kids make bad choices sometimes. Some people do want kids to become that kind of adult, to be motivated by scholarships or pro sports salaries, or to be a finance "bro" willing to cut corners and screw other people for personal financial gain. Not saying all people in finance are like that, obviously, but the ones paid for goals as little kids probably are at higher risk.[/quote]

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