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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m coming up for air after a soul-crushing divorce. I am poor and struggling to start over, my kids do have what they need. Ex-DH is rich and successful. I am doing nearly all of the parenting. I have moved far from my old neighborhood and the life I built.

I need to take the kids to a big party where lots of families and adults will be hosted by friends from their old private school.

I feel like I will die on the spot just anticipating it, but my [b]kids really need to keep this connection to their friends and a few of their friends’ parents, especially the dads.[/b]

Give me a response to the “how are you DOING?” questions and “where did you MOVE?” And “did you not want the house?” comments that less-close friends and acquaintances are going to corner me with, because people had similar things to say at another event and I froze and left early and a friend drove my kids home.[/quote]

I'm sorry about the situation. That sounds really tough.

But to throw more nosy questions into your pile, why do your kids need to stay connected to the dads? Job opportunities? If that's the case, your kids are likely old enough to handle this event on their own if you don't feel like it.

If an acquaintance who knew I was going to the party said to me a shorter version of what you wrote in the op, I'd happily chaperone your kids if you needed to duck out.

I also think it's fine to say something direct like "hey, thanks for asking. I'm doing okay and they kids are fine but I'm not up for talking divorce-related matters tonight. Tell me how you're doing." Hopefully there's even someone kind you can hang out with who knows this who can help redirect the questions.[/quote]

This is the best advice.

Given your situation, you probably 
get good spousal and child support and got a hefty portion of assets. It’s not all doom and gloom.

Focus on yourself and building your career/life.

It’s a new chapter.

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