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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I am not unsympathetic to my mom.  I too would like it if she could easily attend the preschool Christmas pagent or pop over for dinner on a weeknight.  This is how it was for her/her mother.  Sounds like heaven to me.  I guess that's why it bothers me - because part of me wants what she wants too and it just makes me feel like crap when she makes a comment.  In Richmond in particular, its more common for adult children to move back - and less common for them to move away.  So most of her friends have their kids/grandkids around.

[b]Sometimes I wonder if we are placing too much importance on DH's salary/growth potential and not enough emphasis on family?[/b][/quote]

No.  Good lord.  Is she retired?  If so, what the hell is stopping her from coming to the preschool Christmas pageant?  If my parents/in-laws lived 90 minutes away, they would make arrangements to come, no problem.  And what is stopping her from popping over for dinner on a weekend, or you from going there?  Does she need to be like Mama Barone and live across the street so she can come by every single day?

Honey, you are an adult.  Stop accepting this guilt and focus on what's best for [b]your[/b] nuclear family.  If DH's career growth and salary potential are important to you, they're important to you.  It's a matter of your family long-term financial security.  Are you going to sacrifice that to appease your overbearing mother?[/quote]

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