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[quote=Anonymous]I am sorry you are in this boat. On another thread, I was told I am an embarrassment for wanting to be paid for caring for my parent. I was not able to work during that time. I bet that person would not even take time off for their parent yet they judge others. Meanwhile, there are people who think we are horrible for using facilities to handle our parents.

In sum, I would do what is best for you and your family and ignore people who have no clue what they are talking about. I am not familiar with Vietnamese culture but maybe it's economically easier to have one person not work and care for one old person 24 hours a day in Vietnam.

Usually, people who say we should take care of elders ourselves have never done the work of wiping butts, transferring people back and forth from the toilet, dealing with screaming dementia patients, managing all of the medications, feeding them, chasing down dementia patients who leave the house and wander, preparing three meals a day, transferring them from bed to wheelchair to toilet every morning, plus managing their medical appointments, driving them to and from the doctors, taking notes on medical appointments, attending follow ups, scheduling physical therapy, and on and on.

If someone is not willing to do what they think you should do, you can ignore them. [/quote]

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