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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your coworker hasn't personally been through this she is likely just naive. You're not dumping, you're moving her into a place where her needs can be met and she is near to 3 of her adult children. Yes a move is hard for people with cognitive impairment, but living alone is also bad for that, and unsafe. Living alone massively increases the chance of falls, accidents, and elopement which can be fatal. People who are with families, well, they're having un-skilled nursing and they don't have 24/7 awake supervision. The risks of that are real. Some elders are safer and happier with a residential setting and professional care.[/quote]

In other cultures that "don't dump" it 100% falls on the females in the family to give up everything and "take care of the elderly".  That is not right or fair to the women.  Your mom will ultimately do better and be safer in a facility.  A facility where she will have interactions with other people not just you.

Also, yes, YOUR IMMMEDIATE family (teens and you) deserve to not have to be 100% focused on grandma, 24/7, 365 days per year.  It's unskilled nursing and not safe, as well as it is not healthy.  
We have facilities for a reason

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I will also argue that the care received is sub-par.  It's just throwing them in a bedroom and household help is so cheap that they help with daily tasks.  We don't have that option in the US, and even in India, nursing homes are becoming more prominent because of the gaps in care.

I had to place my mom in a facility because she simply would not listen to us and we tried. She didn't listen in her frailest state, and if she made better decisions by listening to us say 20 years ago, her life would not have been as complicated.  We tried hiring help, she fights with them and shoos them away. SO the work is on us to find someone else.  We both work full time and have SN kids.  I am responsible for her care, but in a way that suits my priorities--which is the future generation.[/quote]

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