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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's your child. You should know why.
I have a friend whose kid never goes outside unless she makes her. Takes three hour showers, takes 2 hours to finish a meal, and can completely tune out all noises and not notice anything around her.
All normal to my friend, because that's how the child likes it and 'we are all different'.
This is a child who will be living at home with a parent. ASD and ADHD runs into family, but nobody wants to talk about it.
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It's not that she doesn't want to talk about it, it's that at that level of OCD and autism, your friend can't do much and senses your judgement. If she pushes her child out the door, she might end up homeless and jobless. There is no magic pill or magic therapy for such symptoms, PP. It's not under your friend's control.

My young adult son is on the spectrum, and has the tendencies you describe. It gets worse whenever he's extra anxious. We tolerate what we cannot change and we push him to live as normal a life as he possible can: right now he's doing well in college. Hopefully he won't be fired from too many jobs. He will never be normal. But we hope he will be financially independent, which means acting like a reasonable human being during normal business hours, and masking as much as he can. It's funny to me that parents of SN kids on the SN forum are all up in arms about the ethics of masking (it's not fair to their kids, because it implies that their diagnoses are shameful). I can only assume their kids are very young, or their needs a very mild. At a certain age and level of neurodivergence, you realize that unless your kid has a large trust fund, they will need to work extremely hard to fit in as much as it's possible for them to do.

And sadly for some of them, it's not in their power.

So please be nice to your friend. She's in a no-win situation.
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