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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like he wants a new bang-mommy and you’re it.

I would take this time to consider the long term. He’s a workaholic who won’t take time off to do HIS own tasks and expects you to. YOU are selling his stuff, YOU are meeting his buyers. When you asked for help he told you to pay someone to complain to, so he brushed you off and dismissed your concerns. He won’t even ATTEMPT to have a conversation with you about your life together.

You just aren’t very important to him it sounds like. He puts himself and his priorities first, and keeps you around to do all the sh!t he doesn’t want to. Personally I see a ton of red flags here and wouldn’t want this relationship for myself. You say everything is great, but these are major issues. [/quote]

To play devil's advocate - OP had time off (she didn't take it off, sounds like it was a summer vacation from school?) so I do think it makes sense that she take on more of the burden during that time.

HOWEVER, this guy sounds like a user and OP sounds like someone who will let him walk all over her, which is a bad mix. They don't seem compatible. [/quote]
She took time off to WORK. To do her thesis. Not to do someone else’s errands because he can’t be f***ed to take care of his own sh*t.

Him taking advantage of the time she set aside for her thesis is complete BS. He is definitely a user, and taking advantage of OP.[/quote]

We don’t know the whole situation but [b]it’s possible that the only reason that she can take time off to focus on her thesis is because he has sacrificed and is financially supporting her, taking on extra for her[/b]. So his expectation that she do likewise for him isn’t a red flag. Since she said he has lived there for 6 months and did all his share, he probably feels things are still fair if he is taking on more so she can take time off work but in return she helps out more during this move with all that time off. Working on a thesis is flexible work hours. You can be available to do other things. Maybe she isn’t an equal financial contributor to the expenses of the home and life right now.[/quote]

It's also possible that he cannot unpack because he is the only astronaut capable of manning a rocket shot directly at an asteroid that will otherwise hit North America and wipe out 80% of life on the planet!  There's absolutely nothing in the OP to support either of our theories, but I think they're still plausible.  Don't let people that "live in reality" and "don't make wild assumptions based on nothing" get in your head, PP.  You're right, the guy who is moving into *her* house and making her resell his grotty furniture on FB marketplace is probably her sugar daddy![/quote]
The mental gymnastics of this dude is insanity. He’s probably a lazy mooch himself and his momma told him any woman would be happy to wipe his a— for him. [/quote]

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