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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some families allow this, some don't. Disregarding the occasional logistical reasons like late nights/snowstorms, etc., those who do allow it are just accepting of what is going on (i.e., sex). Also, age matters a lot. 14 vs. 18 is a very big difference.

Among those who don't (which are most, but not by the majority you'd think), I believe:

1) Some don't as a way to pretend that their teens do not have sex, even when they know they do. It's a "I'm not going to make it easy for you," which still signals that it's wrong and potentially dangerous but in a subtle way. It keeps the conversation shut down, which can be beneficial in the short-term (avoids the awkward!) but potentially negative long-term (teens don't feel it's okay to ask parents questions or share concerns, and/or lie).

2) Others don't because they truly believe it prevents teens from having sex. It doesn't generally, because obviously sex can take place anywhere (well, almost anywhere) at any time. So it's about control.

3) A third group doesn't actually care but doesn't allow it because they don't want to be judged. [/quote]

Haha no. Those who do are just permissive and lack boundaries. They think they are somehow getting ahead of something or making it safer but really just effing their kids up same as those who allow drinking to practice [/quote]

Correction: Those who do allow it are just MORE permissive and have DIFFERENT boundaries. It's all a sliding scale, and varies by family, culture, teens and their age. I'm not actually saying it's okay (we did not allow it, but comically I'd put us in category 3). I'm just saying I find these categories of parents in relation to this topic.[/quote]

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