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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a 7yo and we've been encouraging her to push her boundaries now for years. It is her who holds herself back, I don't force things but I tell her if she is comfortable... She rarely is. So my hijack is, do you MAKE your dc do these things or do you ASK them? What if they say no? [/quote]

Generally I believe in forcing kids to level up. But if they don't want to go down the water slide, then they have the natural consequence of being left behind when all their friends go without them. If they won't order food at a restaurant, then they don't get food. If they won't do their laundry, they won't have any more clean clothes. [/quote] Do you just let your kids go to school with dirty clothes if they don't wash them? Teachers are trained to look for that as a sign of abuse to report to CPS.[/quote]

I would take the dirty clothes away as they are taken off - they can't pull anything from the laundry bag. As I said, I will force them to level up - so they won't be allowed to do anything fun UNTIL they've done their laundry. They can sit and stare at the wall for three hours if they want, or they can toss in their laundry and do fun things until it's time to move it to the dryer, keep doing fun things until it's time to fold it which they can do while watching a video, listening to music, etc. [/quote]

This is weirdly aggressive. Why not just announce a weekly laundry routine? It’s OK to scaffold things.

I also don’t parent based on what a book tells me. I always remember the time I thought I was being all cool and RIE when my kid was little one time … and then he ran into a parking lot. I can set my own goals for my kid based on my own values, not a book or a blog post. [/quote]

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