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[quote=Anonymous]We are in a similar situation in that my in-laws are giving large sums of money to a sibling who is going through hard times. My parents have done the same on a smaller scale. My sibling was a one time thing and there has been no drama at all, it’s their money and I would do the same.

With my IL, the biggest crisis happened as partly the result of poor choices, they have definitely been taken advantage of as well and it’s a sad situation. I think it’s a bit harder there because it’s more of a pattern, they have given large sums of money to siblings many times and made very little effort to get the sibling to make more reasonable life style choices so they need to be bailed out repeatedly. It ends up feeling a bit more like funding a lifestyle for sibling they pretty obviously can’t afford , and one we don’t enjoy ourselves despite having a much larger HHI (that we work hard for)

Both parents have offered to account for these payments in their will and in both cases we have said that we prefer to keep things even to prevent drama with siblings. I asked my parents to not tell me details about the extent of money they are transferring or what it’s going towards, again on the basis it’s not my money so I don’t need to know about it and it might be annoying to hear details. Personally I have found that very helpful. I choose to believe my parents did what they needed to do and I don’t want to know enough to feel they are giving *too much* or something.

I think my husband continues to think he has taken the right approach (we value our relationship with all our siblings and especially nieces and nephews). But he knows way that his parents have given a lot of money over the years (they could not afford to give us a similar amount and remain comfortable I think) and I think DH occasionally feels both worried about his parents own financial situation and feels resentful when his sibling is enjoying luxuries that are they honestly can’t afford.

Your sisters situation sounds a lot more similar to mine, tbh, unless you feel jealous she’s a SAHM and you can’t afford that or something? If possible I would try to be gracious and thankful that your parents can help her in this really difficult time. [/quote]

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