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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I’m in the minority here but I think you could reach out and say you heard her mention the kids being with their dad and you hadn’t realized they were separated. I’d offer to be a sounding board if she ever needed one and leave it at that. I think that’s offering support without prying. It’s not like you heard it through the grapevine.[/quote]

Op here. This is basically what I was thinking of texting, but I am paying attention to the many people saying not to do anything as I think more about this.

The thing I return to in my debates with myself is that I think I'd feel bad if people knew something like that about me but didn't say anything. I tend to isolate when sad and that would make me feel more isolated. I hope she did tell people closer to her and is getting support. I don't know if mentioning her kids were somewhere else was her way of telling the group since otherwise she didn't need to say anything at all. She's pretty quiet.[/quote]

Pay attention to the kind pp, OP.
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She may be trying to be kind, but in actuality she is leading you astray.  No way she has gone through divorce with this advice.  It is stupid.  Now if you were having a conversation with her already and she brought it up again, then sure, then you could say something like, I know being a single mother can be difficult sometimes, if you ever need to carpool or something, let me know.  Do not offer to insert yourself emotionally into her troubles if she very clearly did the opposite of asking you to get involved.[/quote]

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