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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Going to trial in a divorce is so incredibly financially dumb. Unless he is worth millions and you stand to lose millions. Otherwise, settle and be done.

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I had to go to trial because my ex was hiding significant assets and refused to reach a settlement approaching an even split.  My very good lawyer gave mediation for a couple of hours, then told me to be done and go to court.  The whole thing was insanely expensive, but unavoidable under the circumstances, and we did have millions. Instead of forcing a sale of everything, the judge agreed with a proposal from my lawyer to split assets. [/quote]

Not to be a bit?h but everyone wants to think their lawyer is ‘the best’ but frankly one mediation session is ridiculous and no reason to go to trial other than he made tens of thousands of dollars off you instead of five figures.

- signed lawyer [/quote]

NP. Is there a way to keep the divorce down to five figures with a highly contentious STBX who will not see reason and ask for things that are flat out not safe for kids?[/quote]

Yes but it will take strategy. First, go to mediation but always let hint you’re open to trial if need be. If you’re the less moneyed spouse you could get legal fees btw. Do your math though and ensure you’re not asking for anything beyond the statutory amounts for child support, maintenance, distribution which in many jurisdictions are a fairly clear calculation (google it and talk to your lawyer). Educate yourself on this stuff because it’s often less opaque as you might think. Lots of people divorce without lawyers.

As far as the kids, play it cool and even consider using reverse psychology w your ex.  Men will often use a mom’s sensitivity about the kids to beat her into a less than fair settlement. Don’t let him. And check your anxiety about your kids. I know it’s hard. But don’t be overly anxious. When you say ‘safety’, I want you to really consider if it’s a true safety issue for them. If it’s not, let it go. [/quote]

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