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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]very sad story of a delayed counseling out...

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/02/nyregion/saint-anns-suicide.html[/quote]

Can anyone summarize? Don’t have a subscription.[/quote]

In Winter 2021, administrators at Saint Ann's in Brooklyn informed eighth grader Ellis Lariviere's parents that he wouldn't be offered a re-enrollment contract for the following year. He'd been at the school since Kindergarten; during his time there, he was diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia, and his struggles prompted a discussion over whether the school was the right fit. His parents fought for him to stay (their older child was a student there and thriving) and the administration allowed it until it was time to go to high school. A few months after the school informed the family of its decision, Ellis ended his life. The parents are now suing the school.[/quote]

This is so, so sad. Lots of kids change schools. But it takes conversations and preparation (and taking standardized texts, getting recommendation letters, writing essays, etc) and in 8th grade, it’s a HEAVY lift on the kid. I googled his name and read that the school told him in early February he couldn’t return for 9th grade. That is insane.

It’s stories like this that make parents/kids terrified of the “counseling out” culture of some of these schools.[/quote]

I read this very differently. It sounds like they had been warned on and off for years. Parents need to acknowledge that sometimes a certain school is not the right place for their child. It isn't easy, but such is life. Admittedly, it is often lazy educators not wanting to deal with it, and that is horrible. But it is often educators knowing that they do not have the expertise the family needs, and/or but devoting huge resources to this one child, it significantly detracts from the educational experience of the rest of the students. If I were one of the other parents spending $70k a year and my child was not having as good of an educational experience because the teachers were devoting too much of their time to one student, I would be very frustrated. I have had this happen in public school and was frustrated that these children weren't being placed in different environments, but I unfortunately understand that in public school, this is a lot harder to do.

Of all years, going into 9th grade is in many ways the easiest time to transition, as many kids are switching schools for HS. I would hate to have to switch for something like 7th grade.

It is a horrible situation. And the article, though fairly well written, was missing a lot of information, so it is impossible to truly pass judgement here.[/quote]

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