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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have noticed many parents we know who are superstars in their fields have average/below average children. The kids are not motivated.

I wonder if they were born less intelligent or it is their upbringing.

We just spent the weekend with a family whose parents are some of the most intelligent kind people we know. [b]Their kids are an absolute disaster in every way possible[/b].[/quote]

Oh come on. Hard to believe this is not a huge exaggeration. How old are their kids?[/quote]

Fighting, screaming, whining, hitting, complaining, being disrespectful 75% of the time. The parents just tune out. It is like they just accepted this poor behavior and don’t know what to do with the children.

I’m surprised how such competent people can be such horrible parents.[/quote]

They are overfunctioners and people pleasers.  They probably don’t make their kids do a lot because they pride themselves on being able to do everything all of the time.

[b]They also probably easily give in to requests by the group on vacation or wherever you are that throw off the kids schedules, so the kids are tired, hungry, etc.  
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There might also be an element, if the kids are also very bright, that the kids never act like their peers.  So it’s hard for the parents to know when to let things go and when to intervene.  
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The bolded is something I have noticed in a lot of our highly successful peers. Kids get whatever they want during vacations or out to dinner or any time they are in public. It is a source of annoyance to me because we set limits on that kind of thing with our kids and when their peers have no limits, it makes my job harder. The parents are buying peace. One friend of ours will hand his credit card to his 10 yr old any time she complains about anything so that she can go buy whatever food, toy, treat, etc., she wants. He's very smart and accomplished, so his his wife, top schools, extremely high paying jobs. The can be lazy parents. It is what it is. Very few people are high functioning in literally every aspect of their lives.[/quote]

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