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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most of the "cool" kids are attractive. They are more likely to be the bullies than the bullied.[/quote]

+1 the concept of the super attractive kids getting bullied is SNL-sketch material.[/quote]

+1.  I’ve never seen anyone get bullied for being good looking.  Now, if he steals his friend’s girlfriend, talks incessantly about how good looking he is, etc., he might be disliked or even bullied.  But that’s being disliked for being a jerk not for being good looking.[/quote]

Really? Do you live in the real world?

My freshman year of college, I had a woman make up ugly rumors about me because a man she was crushing on told her he was attracted to me. I had zero attraction to the dork and never led him on. I was casually friendly like I was to all the guys in our class.

I went to a girls’ high school where almost no one dated so female rivalry wasn’t something I’d ever really encountered. I had no idea I was attractive to men. I didn’t think I was particularly attractive and didn’t much think about looks. My high school was great that way. What mattered was kindness and achievement, not looks.

Because I’d been part of a warm all-girls’ environment, I was shocked to find out how many women viciously and gleefully spread the rumors. They called me a slut and excluded me from gatherings and parties whenever they could. It took my closest girlfriends, who knew all this was BS, launching a counter-campaign to shut it down.

Men might not be as openly bullying but 9th/10th grade boys do get into fights over girls. The super manipulative girls actually feed into the male rivalry because they get off on it.

That said, if the good looks come with an alpha personality those are the boys who are often doing the bullying in high school.[/quote]
Well you clearly didn’t attend NCS.

I’m very confused by posters claiming to have no concept of their own attractiveness because they went to single-sex schools. Are you Amish? Did you not pick up a magazine or watch any TV or movies? Cultural norms of attractiveness are steeped into the adolescent experience regardless of where you went to school. I went to a girls school from 7th-12th and I didn’t care that I was of fairly average attractiveness, but I knew it.[/quote]

I’m not the PP, but I went to NCS, was very middle-of-the-road in popularity, academics, and attractiveness, and I loved my high school experience, particularly the close friendships I formed. Agree that people are aware of their own attractiveness. and those who aren’t are probably missing larger social cues, which might be the reason they struggled socially (ahem, PP)

That said, I currently have a son and daughter in coed elementary and middle schools and find the various insight interesting.[/quote]

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