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[quote=Anonymous]"Someone who has taken the time to unpack and address their addiction(s) is a much safer bet than someone who hasn't acknowledged they have one, or won't. Take it slow and have an exit strategy and "hard boundary" (i.e. if they start drinking again, I'm out), which is good advice for any relationship." I was married to someone with deep childhood trauma who never acknowledged the trauma and never addressed it/came to terms with it. The refusal to be self-reflective made him incapable of forming a real connection. I'd be with someone who is willing to delve into their past to understand their impulsive behaviors and who does the active ongoing work to overcome the addictions that result from the trauma. I'd need to see that their sobriety had held for at least a few years. I feel that most people have something that makes them do crazy things. It's just that some of us will admit it about ourselves. [/quote]
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