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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I thought these places encouraged social events? We belong to a swim club with a super long wait and there were always events going on.  But that seemed to be the point, people belonged to be social.  I have not gone since my kids were old enough to be dropped off alone.  They are social so we keep the membership.  Yes, sometimes they bring lots of friends as guests.   Now they can get there on their own and are still bringing guests.

Maybe reevaluate if these places are for you, OP.  [/quote]

Well I think they’re encouraging people to be social and get to know fellow members. Someone’s BIL and 5 nephews visiting from two subdivisions over who only talks to his family undermines that.[/quote]

Social can mean being social with people your choose to bring as guests. There are no rules saying you join a club to be social only with the members. if you don't have people to bring in and also don't enjoy going to find others do, find a new place that will have people who are in your situation. Or try to get more members who also don't seem to have many family nearby to get into your current club.[/quote]

I actually think that bringing a bunch of non-members to a club and only hanging out with them is antisocial. That’s what entertaining at home is for.

This might be a generational thing. I’m in my mid-40s and the people I see doing these big family takeovers are in their 30s. I think a lot of people never learned to make new friends or how to handle the art of acquaintance/activity friendships. There are a lot of younger people I encounter who can’t handle small talk and light conversation and basically have bffs, their family, and no one else. I live in an area where RTO has been slow and I don’t think that helps in terms of training people on how to interact with strangers and near-strangers.[/quote]

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