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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The wife and I have been married 34 years.  Best friends and totally inseparable. Kids were away at camps this week so we went hiking, out to dinner and attended a wine tasting. We had dirty-talking, hair-pulling, mind blowing sex three times, which is hard to manage when kids are around, including this morning — after tormenting her with half an hour of nibbling foreplay which drives her wild.

You’re not married to a real man. A real man works tirelessly, both mentally and physically, to attend to and honor his wife. And I don’t just mean at work.  Everyone is tired after a day of work, but a real man keeps up the 100% effort after hours to serve his wife and kids.  Only that selflessness develops the emotional connection women need to feel sexually connected.

Leave him ASAP and hopefully you’ll still have plenty of years to find your soulmate and have the happiness you deserve.  [/quote]

NP and OP, I would be crushed to read this comment even though I know it's intended to bring you to reality and help you see your situation. If there were so many great men out in the world, I think this forum would disappear. Finding one is easier said than done. PP, I'm glad that you exist and that you have a healthy relationship and perspective on your responsibility to your wife, but I think OP (and many of us here) would do herself a disservice leaving her DH in the hopes of finding a soulmate and happiness through them. OP, I'm in a situation that isn't totally different than yours and if I get brave enough to fix it by leaving, I will be seeking happiness by myself and will never rely on reciprocity from a man again.[/quote]

PP here. Baloney.  The poor woman is quite simply married to a childish POS who doesn’t love her.

Read what she wrote. He doesn’t communicate, doesn’t keep a clean and tidy house, argues, shouts, has tantrums, and then still thinks he deserves a sexual relationship with his wife. And his wife is so warped by it all that she’s posting here asking if she needs sex counseling!!!

Now compare that to a tried and true definition of love:

[i]Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. [/i]

HE DOES NOT LOVE HER.

Telling a woman to stay in a so-called “marriage” with someone who doesn’t love them is sick.

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