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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you already made this about you and not the kids. You absolutely can build a relationship with them. I understand them being young but a video call can go a long way or offer to come over and tell the parents you’d like to do a special activity with the kids so the parents are off the hook for the afternoon but can still stay in the house (if you are concerned they won’t let you be alone with the kids because they are too young).

Build the relationship you want with your nieces/nephew and address your concerns with the parents. I’m pretty sure my SIL doesn’t like me and I wish she would just say it. It would actually make life so much easier. If she told me how she feels, no one has to pretend that we all need to get together on a Saturday. We can plan an activity with the kids (on their terms as parents) and that’s it. Not addressing it has meant, our kids don’t see their cousins and it’s sad.

Everyone needs to put on their big people pants and have a conversation even if it feels like conflict. [/quote]

+1.  My mom and her sisters had (and still have) a fraught relationship, but my aunts didn't take that out on us kids.  For one aunt in particular, who married and had kids later, I think it helped that she would have us over or take us places on our own (without my mom).  Not sure my mom has ever admitted it but those times were probably helpful for her too.
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