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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Disagree. For big values/stuff people don't usually change but for some things they can certainly learn and grow. It's like saying people don't learn anything or change their preferences after they turn 18. Of course they do. DH is much better now at anticipating things and doing a ton prepping for guests for example. I'm much better at not buying everything just because I want to and I yell much less and keep a less cluttered space than I did when I was single. We change all the time as adults so why not work on things that bother our partners. [/quote]

This. If the willingness is there, people can change. Some core traits can be mitigated but not changed, and if there’s no willingness to change or compromise, then there’s no hope. Speaking from experience of my exDH and current boyfriend. ExDH may have been on the spectrum or just extremely rigid and arrogant. No change or willingness to compromise, hence why we are divorced. Boyfriend has his own quirks (ADHD) but eager to please me and open to feedback, and has made immense strides in 2 years. I am open to change because I also want to please my partners. [/quote]

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