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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd want to give the parents a heads up. The thing that's hard is if they already know and have decided not to act, you don't want it to be phrased judgmentally. So I'd probably approach by starting conversation with them about instagram. "Ugh, I hate that my daughter is on instagram now. It's so hard to figure out what limits to set about social media, especially as they're almost adults. What's your approach been?"

That way, you'll be able to get a way better sense of whether they know or would care based on their response. If they say "yeah, at this point we've decided she can use her own judgement on stuff like that, we're staying out of it" then you keep quiet. If they say "Oh, we monitor her instagram very closely, it is a pain" then you can say, "I noticed she had a second account - are you following that one as well?" or something that clues them in without being pushy. [/quote]

I think this is excellent. My daughter had a similar social media presence. My sister hemmed and hawed before showing me, and I threatened to not tell HER if HER daughter got up to something, in the future. Phrased like that, like a parent naturally would want to know, she showed me some horrible stuff my daughter had out there. I had a conversation with my daughter, which I thought I fumbled and which I thought went terribly, but my daughter actually reacted well to it, over time. My kid, like many, went through phases. She was probably 17 at this point. It’s 5 years later and she and I have a close relationship and she is finishing college and she’s awesome. I’m grateful I had a chance to talk to her about the social media stuff that was out there.[/quote]

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