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[quote=Anonymous]Op, your mindset is setting yourself up for failure. Birth is a medical event, and the outcome you want is a healthy mom and baby, not having a vaginal birth or avoiding a C section. The outcome you need to be focused
on is ensuring you bring baby into the world safely and not permanently injuring or disabling yourself in the process so your body, reproductive organs, pelvic floor, and ability to urinate and defecate don’t get permanently damaged in the process (ask me how I know).

While the mode of delivery seems so important during pregnancy, it’s really, really not in hindsight. Having a vaginal birth means nothing if your baby is harmed during it. Don’t ever forget that. You can’t control how the baby is delivered, no matter what your natural childbirth books say. And even if you do everything “right” you may still end up with a complicated delivery and the “cascade of interventions” that are often demonized, but frankly should be celebrated because we are lucky to live in a time where women and babies don’t routinely die in childbirth and we have medical interventions that can help avoid horrible outcomes.

I had my first at GW years ago because I was very focused on having a natural childbirth. I got that, and whole lot of permanent pelvic floor injuries because of their poor management of my delivery and failure to convert to a C section in an appropriate, timely way. The nurses were horrible, the hospital was awful, and the teaching hospital aspect made my difficult birth grotesquely fascinating and exciting to the troop of residents and students, who watched with excitement while I was screaming through contractions, was terrified my baby had died, and was feeling like I was dying, too. It was horrible, an experience I would never wish on anyone and the outcomes of which I live with each and every day and relive on my child’s birthday, which I remember with primarily trauma
and not happiness. For my second, I opted for a scheduled C section at Sibley with De Souza to avoid making any of my problems worse and because I could never go back to GW. He did a great job, the hospital was fantastic, no residents or students - only professional medical staff, and I remember that birth fondly and with a lot of happiness, unlike my first, which was horrifically painful and traumatic. I was treated so well by all the providers at Sibley, and felt well cared for and supported - in many ways the opposite of GW.

Try and remember that your health (mental and physical) and the health of your child and their survival are at stake during birth, and don’t be so focused on the delivery mode that you lose sight of that. And for what it’s worth, I know many moms who delivered vaginally at Sibley. [/quote]

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