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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's just the very uncomfortable feeling of someone being copied and pasted into the deceased loved one's role. Seeing her parenting the kids and being the wife will be really hard. [/quote]

I get that it might be difficult, but think of HIM and how lonely he must be.  He's put 4 years into being the sole parent for his kids and focusing on them and getting them thru the trauma of loosing a parent.  At some point, he deserves to take care of himself as well and that means dating if he's ready.  And yes, he might want some help with raising 3 kids, assuming he finds the right person.

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I agree with this.  I know someone who lost his wife suddenly in his thirties and went on to re-marry to a widow with children. They have been very happy, and the kids have turned out well. I think most people would say that they would want their spouse to have a chance to re-marry if they found someone they liked.  It is not fair for the widow/widower to live frozen in time because their spouse passed away.[/quote]

And I think 4 years of "not dating" and focusing on the kids and getting the family the therapy they need is more than enough.  Dad deserves to be happy (and so would Mom if the situation were reversed.)[/quote]

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