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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband doesn’t really say much. He avoids talking about much with his family because their viewpoints are so rigid and outlandish he’s hard to relate on any topic. [/quote]

Honest question only because I have a couple family members like you describe.   Have you ever discussed with your husband why he feels obligated to be part of their lives?   It was something I struggled with for years and felt a lot of guilt about wanting to cut them out of my life.  But then I had kids. And then my kids became old enough where they could pick up on the family members behavior and what they were saying.  And that sealed the deal.  I wanted to protect my kids from them.   DH was in full support as he'd spent years quietly supporting whatever decision I wanted to make about them but also clearly wanting them out of our lives.

Now, I am involved enough to know what's going on with them but keep my kids and DH away from them.   And considering how much worse they've gotten in the last couple years, I'm very glad I'm not exposing my kids to them.  [/quote]

Yes. But it’s just a tough situation. We spend a lot of time with MIL too and she’s extreme, extreme right which is tough. I don’t want my kids being influenced by her. She’s extremely against education/college, especially the Ivy league and talks about it frequently with the kids and says crazy things like we are going to be homeless, hungry and poor living on the streets because of “the liberals”. It’s a lot. I would love to spend less time with her but it’s not really an option. We don’t see the others much because they live in a different state.  [/quote]

Here's the thing.  It is an option.  He can go deal with his mom alone.  There is really no reason your kids or you need to be exposed to this.  If he feels an obligation to see her because he's her son, then he can deal with her solo.  You have a husband and father problem if he insists that you and the kids join.  [/quote]

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