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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can talk to grandad but it probably won't do any good-- sounds like the "girls / women have to please everyone" is ingrained.

It would be best not to leave dd there alone without you.

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I can guess what area roughly

Yeah, you aren't ever going to change them.

Limit her time with them. Not that you are going to have to try hard. After this experience, she's probably never going to want to go back and will be so happy she lives here and not there.
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Yes, I think you are right. And what some people kindly pointed out is true: she’s not me and she did grow up differently, so she does not have this internalized deep guilt over being seen as bad and selfish for any needs/opinions. She cares much less. [b]I still don’t like her being in this situation though.[/quote[/b]]

Good for you, OP

This means you have grown to understand your childhood and the forces that shaped you, but are breaking that pattern. Many people choose to keep perpetuating these roles and pass along generational guilt.

I think your DD will be fine. Maybe one day, this visit will help her to understand you better.
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