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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's see what her perspective might be:

"I called up a longtime friend to catch up on our lives and told her what was going on with me. I always get the feeling she thinks my problems are stupid and trivial. It makes me not want to confide in her or connect anymore. I appreciate her problems and want to listen but I always feel like she's judging me and talking shit about me on the internet". [/quote]

If you don’t have the slightest understanding of why humble bragging about your NT kid might be hurtful to your friend with a kid with SN - then you are not really trying. Yes, it requires exercising some discretion and not just blabbering about how awful it is that your child might have no option other than the state flagship university (true story). I don’t have any issue being sensitive about this stuff and neither do my actual friends. For example several of my closest girlfriends don’t have kids but would have liked to. I don’t go on and on to them about how amazing motherhood and pregnancy are and how it’s the best thing I ever did. [/quote]

We are hearing one side of the story here. OP sounds sensitive to the point of being unable to hear ANYTHING positive. "Our wins are more meaningful"?? Really? If a friend told me that I would drop the friendship. [/quote]

Where do you see that OP would say that? I presume OP has a lot more tact. All she is saying is that as SN parents it often feels like everything we do is more consequential. I get that. Like I have a kid who has to be physically taught everything (picks up nothing on his own) so yeah, I do feel that the efforts I make on his ADLs are really consequential and yeah, bigger wins at the end of the day. [/quote]

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