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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP who posted the longish reply at the beginning.  I read your orig post more carefully now, and see that the MIL is checking in on you to make sure you're following her advice, issuing guilt trips, and so on.  Yeah, that's super annoying.

Is there any way you can have a stock reply to this, so you're deflecting her negative energy?  It's great to keep the good (excited grandma), and starve out the bad (interfering grandma).  Sometimes annoying behavior is starved out when the perpetrators see that their tactics are getting them nowhere.  I generally think it's good to start gentle, and leave the heavy-hitting to your husband, since he's the MIL's "flesh and blood."

In no way do I mean that you should be a dishrag, or roll over to avoid her guilt-tripping.  If you can stay as calm and zen as possible--like a rock in the river--the water might rush right past you.  Sometimes, that's true, anyway.  :)

Can your husband help convey that she needs to try to knock it off?  Best if he takes the blame for this request himself... Mamas often forgive their own kids--especially their own sons--more readily than the dreaded "woman who married my little boy."  :D

Good luck, OP!!!  I'm rooting for you![/quote]

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