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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dd14 has a friend with a strict mom. As far as DD can tell, the mom is simply anxious, the friend isn’t a troublemaker, but who knows what the history is there. Whatever the case, I’m struggling.

I WFH and the mom has dropped her off a few times before she heads to work so the girls can hang out, and then the girl gets picked up, sometimes by mom, sometimes by someone else. But the mom doesn’t want her to be here alone (it’s just me and DD and our other DD, so the issue isn’t men) and doesn’t allow her to be home alone.

The issue I’m running into lately is that either something comes up and I need to run out, or something happens and the girl’s ride falls through and I have to leave the house before the mom (or whoever) can grab her. The thing is, I can’t even drop her off since she can’t be home alone. Two times now I’ve had to cancel plans while we wait for someone to grab this girl, and it’s starting to feel like babysitting.

DD is scared that if I say something, she won’t be allowed over anymore, and it’s one of her best friends. How should I handle this? I can’t keep getting stuck where I can’t leave my house whenever nobody can pick the girl up! But at the same time, I feel for DD because she doesn’t have that many close friends. [/quote]

1. If the girl is getting dropped off and you know you have plans, tell the mom that you have to leave by X o'clock, then just leave. If unexpected things are your issue, tell her ahead of time that you may have to leave randomly.

2. I think you’re not telling the whole story though. Are you also leaving your daughter at their home and you don’t care if the girls are alone, but you know for certain that they are not?

3. Like other pps have said, if there is a health issue it’s understandable.

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