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Meant to say, I can't believe I "survived" this messy situation. I was first in my family to go to college and ended up triple majoring in 3 STEM degrees, all while going thru this nightmare.

Imagine studying Physics w/Calculus problems, taking 18-21 credit hours of Engineering and Computer courses, spending hours in the computer lab, and needing to rush home to make sure Mom was ok.

It was a relief when she went to this school, and an even more celebration when she graduated and was a successful and contributing adult.

This isn’t about you.[/quote]

That's a nasty comment.  Adoption/foster care IS about other children in the house.  As an adoptive mom to kids who were older at time of placement, I would have been wracked with guilt had we already had bio kids in the home given some of the behaviors we experienced.  People who already have children in the home should think long and hard before embarking on adoption or foster care because they already have lives for which they are responsible.   And choosing to adopt kids who may experience life long challenges and needs will---at some point---burden your existing children.  Yes, bio families can have children with special needs but that is not the same as affirmatively making the choice to create that situation for your existing children.  Kudos to the PP who survived the chaos.  A wise (and regretful) parent once told me that no family should allow the most disruptive member to control the family dynamic, as it is profoundly unfair to everyone else.  Your family did the right thing to send your sister to treatment.  We made a similar choice and also had positive results.[/quote]

No it’s not.  The discussion is not about you or siblings.  You are dangerous if you hide knives.  Kids can have mental health issues regardless of how they joined a family.  [/quote]

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