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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have three adopted kids and one was like this - notice I said was. Here’s what we did. Self harm - immediate trip to the Er which resulted in hospitalization 50% of the time. Violence and property damage- police were called who took kid to ER, sometimes in handcuffs. When ER called we refused to come so kid was admitted. Residential treatment. PP describes a program they used and it is a good description for what we used. We only considered programs where staff had adoption experience and experience with attachment disorders including RAD. After that, specialized public school non mainstream program - which fortunately we didn’t have to pay for. We did things like applying for jobs for him and driving him to work when he got the jobs. Things that didn’t work - therapy. It was a long road and my child even ended up Homeless for a minute. But early on we realized we needed to identify our lines in the sand and stick to them - and those lines were zero tolerance For violence or drugs among things like going to school and working. That consistency plus the outside support got us to a successful place. We did have to compromise o things like smoking but we placed line in the sand limits. Today my young adult is in college, Working and a pleasure to live with. [/quote] I'm the PP with the sister. Totally agree with everything in this approach. ER, Psych ward, police, residential. Firm boundaries.[/quote] I am the PP who thinks your family rocks. Hearing the effects on you is painful. I have two other kids, one whom was really in the mix due to her age. As parents we didn’t plan it, we might have chosen a different course if we could have anticipated how horrific it was to be on our other kids, and we did our best to protect our other kids. But I recognize that there is an effect and I can’t help that because I had no idea what was to come when we brought Other kids into our family. My youngest, like you and who truly experienced the brunt, is amazing and making a successful path. I am impressed by her and I am amazed by you - I Hope that’s worth something from an internet stranger. [/quote] Thank you - that means a lot! And best wishes to your daughter and family too. What doesn't break us makes us stronger (as long as we don't break!).[/quote]
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