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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]2nd generation Indian immigrant here.  You describe my mom.  Except, my  mom has ALWAYS been like this. We try to come up with the plan and at the last minute she sabotages it.

Right now, it's dementia, but I am convinced there was some type of personality disorder or bipolar in there.

I say this because if any of this resonates, you will need to make it happen. Hire a travel notary so they come to the house. That way she can't refuse to go somewhere. If you haven't already done so, see if she will add your name to her bank account. If she refuses, you will need to wait for POA. Start looking for elder care lawyers now who can advise.

Best of luck![/quote]

OP, it's nice you want to "take charge" but you need to be absolutely, 100 percent transparent with your siblings every step of the way.

If you don't, expect there will be huge family blow-outs and maybe even accusations by siblings of of money-grabbing and undue influence. [/quote]

This is OP.  I totally get the frustration of not being in the loop on important matters concerning your parent.  But it is interesting that I get no empathy, financial or moral support as the sole caregiver to our mother. They are very quiet when the holidays (or anytime of the year) roll around and she is waiting for an invite to visit with them and her grandchildren. They are not the one who she is frantically calling when random issues arise. My sisters are more than welcome to “take charge” of my mom’s day to day needs.

Right now they get best effort on transparency. My attention needs to remain as it always has been on my mom, her quality of life and wellbeing. In addition, I have a family life so my plate is quite full.  When my sisters suddenly wake up and become vocal and concerned when they hear the cash register ringing I will have to deal with that fallout when it comes.

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