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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it is a wise idea.[/quote]
Why on earth not? I cannot  imagine why it is a problem? I know who all the parties are, all the relatives, on both sides,  as well, and they all know about me. All bio and adoptive parents are dead. There's nothing I don't know about anyone,  and vice versa, as I’ve done DNA. No one should  be without this knowledge.

So, you think it's not a good idea  for  me to know:
My actual birthday?
The time and place of my birth?
What was written on my birth record?

Why do you get to know that and not me? I am not a rescue mutt, who,  BTW, comes with a lot more information than I actually have. [/quote]

NP - I am a MSW and I actually had a job revealing records to adoptees.  It was pretty terrible.  You are bursting all of their lifelong fantasies about their parents and how much they were wanted (sometimes this might be true, but usually it was a window into tremendous dysfunction or pain).  Even if you think that this isn’t true for you, it is a real risk.  [/quote]

So, we don't lie anymore to adoptees in an effort  to create those fantasies in the first place.  That ended quite a long time ago. This is all called "coming out of the fog"- a mainstream adoption concept, if you actually are a social  worker that deals with adoption,  would actually  be quite familiar  with. The secrets, old social  mores of the past,  are no longer a "thing." You  are likely retired- this does not  happen  anymore. [/quote]

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