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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I know how often people here turn against the OP- but you honestly sound just as rigid as they are. It’s not up to you or your DH to find them approved hobbies to do - they are happy with whatever they are doing. They’ve done the heavy lifting of work, children, etc. and if they want to sit around and chat and watch TV - so what? The era they came from was less rat race in so many ways - people actually sat and chatted at dinner parties, played board games, looked through old photographs, played music just to listen to it. 
Sounds like your kids are still napping, it sounds like they’re still very young, and that can be a hard age for some seniors to relate to. They’re not as physical as they once were, it’s hard to get down on the floor (and up!) to play Lego or games, and they’re not as familiar with their popular characters and culture that toddlers exist in. Sitting and watching them play IS the joy, because they get to see what your kid likes, who they are, etc. They may not know which activities to plan as there is nap time and a schedule and children with different abilities. A

Honestly, I think these visits are tough because you’re framing them as tough. You have an expectation of how things will go, and some of it could be mitigated by maybe you planning a few activities you know your kids can do that grandparents can watch, or by bringing some games, etc. that can fill the time for you and your kids. [/quote]

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