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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a 43 year old woman and have only a few acquaintances/casual friends and no close friends. I've found it very hard to make good friends and have been trying for 10 years without much luck.

I am always the initiator and invite acquaintances/new acquaintances to do things a lot.  What I've noticed is that women are happy to accept my invitations but never invite me to do anything.  I can't remember the last time another mom or female friend invited me out for coffee, a walk, or anything.  I usually invite other women to get together about once a month or so, to do something like brunch, a walk, coffee, and I wait a few months in between invitations with the same person.  In other words, if I invite Jen for lunch in March, I'll wait until June to invite her for coffee next.  I also don't get invited to birthday parties for friends or holiday celebrations.  I feel invisible and overlooked.  If I didn't reach out and do all this inviting, no one would reach out to me and I would be friendless.

I feel that the problem is that other women think I'm nice enough, but don't think of me as someone they would make the effort to reach out to.  I feel like I have plenty in common with these other moms/women, and I feel like our conversations go well.  I'm not sure how I can fix this problem and therapy has been no help.  Any advice?[/quote]

Take a closer look at your husband and his personality.  He may likely be off-putting and the reason why you're not getting more invitations.  It's his fault, not yours.[/quote]

Jesus. [/quote]

It can be true. I used to be work friends with a lovely, interesting woman. When we started hanging out outside of work I noticed her husband made me uncomfortable and she and her husband shared an email account, which weirded me out. Every single time I talked with him, even for 30 seconds, there was something about him that left me unsettled. Turns out he was abusive and controlling and she ultimately divorced him. We became better friends after that.

My sibling has dropped a couple of friends because she didn't like how the husbands spoke - either to her or to their wives/my sister's friends. [/quote]

This is why I never hand out with my wife and her female friends. I'm not weird, but I just feel like as a man I don't think I'll enjoy spending time with other women without their husbands being present.[/quote]

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