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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks everyone for the kind words! I am fine when it comes to knowing what to do. It’s just the exhaustion. He was born small at 37 weeks and has had trouble gaining weight. He lost a lot of weight and we have strict orders to feed him every 1.5 hours because he will only eat small amounts and is hard to stay awake. I’m pumping every 2-3 hours. I’m exhausted and don’t low how I will handle all the feedings and pumping by myself. My husband has been able to do at least half of the feedings. It’s been very exhausting. [/quote]

Ok, I know that everyone comes from very different perspectives on this so this is just one mom’s opinion:

Consider formula. Yes, it’s expensive, but it takes the pressure off of you and your body. You’re not doing anything wrong by considering it. It sounds like pumping and getting this baby fed is really tough right now, and if it fills you with a sense of dread or anxiety or causes stress, that might eventually outweigh its benefits.

For complicated reasons that don’t matter one bit, my DD was fed exclusively formula from day 1. If that hadn’t been the case, I don’t know how I would have survived.

I’ll acknowledge that this is anecdotal:  as a baby and toddler DD was rarely sick, is always one of the few to escape waves of contagion at school and in her sport, and she is happy and closely bonded to us and the other people who helped feed her. She is a great person with lots of kind friends.

For those who care (we don’t) or believe that formula affects development or intelligence: she regularly tests in the 98th-99th percentile of standardized tests and has had a lot of success in her main sport and other activities she’s tried. [/quote]

I’m not against formula. We can afford it. I just would rather pump because I’m hoping we can nurse in the next couple of weeks when he is less sleepy and has gained enough weight. I have a really good supply and he likes it. He did have formula twice and both times he spit up almost all of it. He is fine with my milk. [/quote]

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