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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My marriage has been very high conflict. My D has witnessed it. There are things I’ve told my D that are only between her mother and I x d I will not discuss them her. I’m asking for a split of assets 52 percent in wife’s favor, but she says that’s not reasonable.

She went to court pro se and filed for the continuance. She claimed she did not see the original complaint b/c the process server gave it to my D who was home at the time. She also made other claims that my lawyer and I ambushed and misled her. She says she requested the continuance so she could get a lawyer. The judge denied her request. She waited too long.

Why would I write this? Because I’m stressed. [/quote]

I would advise your ex and your D directly (since she has already been brought into this) that you are agreeing to one continuance, and there will be no further concessions after this continuance.  Show a little mercy to the woman you were married to for 25 years, and then, if that fails, you can sleep well at night knowing you did right by your 25-year marriage.

Why are you in such a rush to finalize your divorce?  What does six more months or so cause you so much stress? [/quote]

I don’t think he is in a rush. I think he is exasperated. Know the difference.

Why is the stb-ex dragging her feet? Health insurance? Pride?

Dealing with older children in these situations is tricky. You don’t really want to share too many details, however you also don’t want your ex to be a financial burden on your child (I presume). And if Mom is crying about being a victim, that’s unfortunate although it puts you in a bad spot.

I am in the camp of rip off the bandaid. You can always voluntarily give more money later if needed.

And yes, your relationship with your kid is going to suffer. But I would suggest that damage is already done and may not be repairable. [/quote]

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