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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is costing us lots of time and money because he has his ego wrapped up in being the person who calls repair people and contractors, but doesn’t have the understanding of home repair to accurately articulate problems or what we want repaired or changed.

I have tried repeatedly to circumvent this by calling repair people first, being home when people he’s hired are here so I can make sure they accurately understand what we need done, etc, but that makes DH mad and he’ll tantrum about how I don’t trust him, or make him feel stupid, or whatever. But the thing is, he is kind of stupid when it comes to house stuff and so I don’t trust him. Instead of managing his ignorance and trying to do research and learn, he just lashes out at me instead.

Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? I’m so tired of wasting an entire day waiting for a repair person only to discover (for example) that my DH called the wrong kind of person or didn’t understand what was wrong so they couldn’t order the correct parts or bring the right crew out.

The latest is that we have a new thermostat that has never worked properly. It’s under warranty so we needed to have the installer come out and replace it. However, DH instead told the dispatcher at the office that managed the hvac installation that our heat pump wasn’t working. So they scheduled us for a much longer call and can’t fit us in for a week because he led them to believe that the heat pump had failed. We have no evidence that it has since the thermostat can’t even communicate with it.

Anyway, I called the company back, told them about the thermostat issue, and they came out today and swapped it out and everything is working. But if I hadn’t, we would have waited for a week for the wrong kind of repair for no reason.

Even though it all works now, DH is storming around and acting offended and butthurt because I “made him feel stupid” and “can’t butt out and let him manage in his own.”[/quote]

Just hire out the repairs. DH sounds controlling. I don't think he sounds like great long term partner material, unfortunately.[/quote]

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