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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He probably doesn't know what to do.   And I don't mean in the way of "well then just do laundry".  You went into preterm labor and he probably felt useless.   You had a C-section and are in pain and still recovering and probably feels useless and doesn't know how to help.   The baby right now is a major adjustment but is also really just sleeping, eating, and needing diaper changes so he also probably doesn't know what else to do with him.  And that's why he's pestering you.  He feels like he should be doing more for you for what you went through, he just doesnt know what.

Just tell him you appreciate how attentive he's been and that you're happy he's home with you during this time.    And that you'll happily tell him anything you need for him to do.   And then just think of one little task for him to do a day, even if it's something as silly as "make a pitcher of lemonade".   It'll make him feel like he's doing something for you and he'll probably back off.  And once the exhaustion really sets in, I don't think this will be a concern. [/quote]

He is doing a lot. He is doing all the cooking and making sure I have snacks and water, all the cleaning, the laundry, getting groceries, and washing all the bottles and pump parts. He is doing his fair share of diaper changes and bottled feedings. He still follows us around or just sits and stares while I try to feed or pump to see if I need any help. It is annoying little weird for me to have him just sitting and starting at me for 30+ minutes. [/quote]

Did you not read the post? She did and now he his feelings are hurt. [/quote]

I did read it, and I think she should tell him again, and he should suck it up and stop staring at her. Hurt feelings waaaaaah. Nobody likes to be stared at![/quote]

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